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Does life feel overwhelming and weird these days? Has it been years since you felt a sense of peace and harmony? Many people say they feel locked into a life struggle that leaves them without joy. A woman we'll call Katherine told us, "I don't remember feeling happy in a long time." The truth is that too much responsibility, too little relaxation time and a sense of urgency can erase one's joy.
Here's how to take back joy you've lost:
Take time for joy. Even if you only have five minutes to take a walk or read a magazine, allow yourself to focus on what pleases you. 
Reflect on happier times. Even if you suffered a painful period in life, try to dwell on the happy moments that came during that time.
Focus on creating joy now. For example, do take 10 minutes to watch children play or carve out time to watch a favorite show.

Creating joy
A man we'll call Georage is sitting by his wife's hospital bed these days.
"I do go outside the hospital and look at the sky and trees,"says George.
"I focus on nice paintings in the hospital hallway, and I get a real kick out of having my favorite coffee before I go into the hospital chapel to meditate."
George knows that joy is all about focus. He finds small bits of time to focus on what feels harmonious and right. Without these moments, his spirit would die.

A divorced woman we'll call Sandy says she hated reflecting on the town she grew up in.Sandy had bad memories of  her fist marriage there.
"But ," says Sandy ,"one day I called my 83-year-old mother. I told Mon that we should walk around our hometown and reflect on the good time. 
We talked about the joys of my grandmonther's house, hiding Easter eggs, and how we grew ecstatic when the carnival came to town."
    Sandy emphasizes that focusing on joyful moments in the past ,present and future makes her how feel in control of her life."Hard days are a lot easier if you've had an ongoing
infusion of joy.
Sandy knows that joy is an armor of self-protection. If we layer it on offen enough, it even beings to spread.

Side effects of joy
    Before Sandy started trying to access joy, she says she was too tired to exercise and didn't  take  much pride in her appearance.
If your physical appearance needs work or your house is messy, you might ask yourself if you're lacking joy.
It's the ticket to turning things around.
   Ever  notice that it takes less energy to spiff things up when you're felling good? You can whiz through bed making, bathroom cleanups, and carpooling with less stress.
Most  of us can stick with a diet , stick with exercise, and get more work done for our employer if we energize ourselves with joyful thoughts and feelings.